Miriam Yeung On Having Long-Lasting Marriages: “You Must Compensate Each Other”jessie tan
Starring as Lam Fei in the TVB drama Wonder Women <多功能老婆>, Miriam Yeung (楊千嬅) can relate to her character in many ways. Like Lam Fei, Miriam gained a lot of wisdom after being a mother, and like Lam Fei, Miriam fell in love with a younger man—her husband Real Ting (丁子高), who is five years younger.
In a new episode of Oriental Daily’s My Date with a Star <我和星星有個約會>, Miriam teaches a fan, Yumi, on how to make cake. Miriam shared that she learned to how to make dessert and pastries after giving birth to her son, Torres. “You earn extra brownie points as a mother,” said Miriam.
Yumi’s newly wed husband, who is from Macau, is two years younger. “Mr. Ting is also younger than you,” Yumi told Miriam. “And I believe in what you do. I’ve learned that it is possible to marry someone younger than you.”
“Traditional families in our society may put a lot of emphasis on age,” said Miriam. “But as long as the two of you can get along and communicate, age shouldn’t matter. Whether the other person is younger or older, balance is what that should matter. Don’t take marriage for granted. It is a responsibility.”
On how to keep her relationship “fresh” with Real Ting, her husband of ten years, Miriam said she is still learning, and the learning will last a lifetime. “Mr. Ting and I understand that the importance of compensation. We make our differences work for each other. For a happy family you must learn how to be accepting. Communication is very important, because everyone is unique and different. You have to be patient and really use your soul to talk. When you have time, talk to the other person as your friend. Share your feelings and work together for your family.”
Miriam and Yumi were invited to the kitchen to bake cake together. Miriam, who was wearing a purple sweater and had dyed her hair purple as well, decided to make a cake with ube icing. Miriam shared that her son Torres loves to cook, and with a helper, he baked a cake for Miriam.
“My son said he wants to be a chef,” said Miriam. “That’s great! We should support kids who have dreams. And once you make your decision, then you should put effort and work hard towards that goal.
As they completed their cake, Miriam advised Yumi to have kids soon if that was the long-term plan. “Start now! Not for me, because that will be a geriatric pregnancy! Of course, that would take time to consider, but think about it positively. You grow and mature a lot more once you have kids. You and your husband will also have more common topics and share goals. It’s definitely another type of happiness.”