Hong Kong actress Phoebe Sin on the confusion and fragmented times in motherhood

Phoebe Sin was competing in the 2016 Miss Hong Kong competition when she met her spouse, actor Ruco Chan, who was a guest judge then.

After they hit it off and dated for two years, the couple married in October 2018 and gave birth to their daughter Quinta in April 2019.

The 30-year-old Hong Kong actress took to Instagram on Aug 13 to express her thoughts on marriage and motherhood.

“After becoming a mother, I would sometimes get comments that it’s nice to be able to stay at home with the baby without having to work,” wrote Phoebe, who cut down on projects after Quinta’s birth.

Acknowledging the sentiment to be “true to an extent”, Phoebe said that this allows her to watch her little one grow up, witness every new milestone, as well as take care of her husband.

There can be a sense of confusion

While the mum said these bring her a sense of satisfaction, she also admitted that being home too often can be stifling.

She wrote: “In the fragmented times when I have my thoughts to myself amid the busyness of everyday life, there can be a sense of confusion.”

“Only I know the pain and happiness,” she added.

According to Phoebe, there had been a point in time when she experienced a period of confusion. But what led Phoebe to snap out of it was through reading books and watching movies.

They were said to have inspired and expanded her worldview.

“A happy mother will be able to bring vitality into the home,” wrote Phoebe.

“And the greatest reward is learning how to utilise the fragmented times I get for myself to do what I love doing.”

She posted a photo of herself while at work and shared that she was “very motivated” at work that day.

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當了mama 後， 偶爾都會聽到 現在不用工作， 在家湊下bb 多好！ 對！ 可以陪著Quinta 成長，見到每個新嘗試 照顧老公 都為我帶來滿足感！ 但在每天碎片式時間 忙東忙西又一天， 就只有自己知道當中苦與樂！ 曾經我都經歷過一段迷惘期， 直到我看到一些書和電影， 啟發了我 當一個快樂mama 才可以為家注入養分 而最大收穫是學習每天碎片式時間 仍然可以安排到做自己喜歡的事 這是最近一次工作照 那天工作特別有幹勁 因為只有眼界寬闊的mama 才會給孩子更好視野教育

A post shared by Phoebe Sin 單文柔 (@smyphoebe) on Aug 12, 2020 at 8:59pm PDT

“Only a mother with a broad worldview can give her children a good education,” she said at the end of her post.

Many fans cheered her on

Many of Phoebe’s fans commented on the post and sent her their well-wishes.

“I can understand your pain and happiness. I have the utmost confidence that you can do it. All the best!” wrote a netizen.

There were also others who said they are looking forward to more of Phoebe’s sharing about her life, as well as movie recommendations she might have.

This article was first published in theAsianparent.